If we find ourselves in a place of discomfort do we take true steps to make us happy?
Do we ever sabotage our own success and happiness? It may sound like a real silly question, or does it?
Despite our discomfort in our situations in our jobs and relationships I believe that we get comfortable with the discomfort. At least we know what to expect from day to day. Especially in our personal relationships you will find this to be true.
How many friends do you know that are miserable in their current relationship yet they continue being miserable. Or some single women are so passionate about being single and resist jumping into a relationship because the new man could ruin that which they have built.
A friend of mine told me that we ” talk about all our daily crap, but at least it OUR crap” So who is truly holding us back?
The man? The woman? Our job? Our children? Our parents?
Growth and being happy could mean we have to do something and step outside of our crappy comfort zone.
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I think or in my case I know that I sometimes find myself in “my discomfort” not because I want to stay in that state, but because I think of myself last. Do I want to run away from my sometime discomfort zone?…..Yes! but what of my kids, what of my husband, what of for richer, poorer , ’till death do us part! I can’t tell you the times I felt like running…I have 3 little ones to think about first. Maybe we are scared to get out of our discomfort zone, who knows, but imagine if everybody was to just think about their own happiness??? As a mom, you learn to make sacrifices (at least most moms) and you have to give it your all in everything you do for your family, it’s not easy by any means but that’s where your friends come in to place! Pray and count your blessings and I can’t say for sure how much crap it too much crap before you take the steps to do something about it. I guess it just depends on your crappy situation.
It has only taken me a year to reply to your comment. Crazy, ain’t it?
I had no idea I had not replied until about 3-4 months ago when you mentioned it to me. I wonder where my mind was at the time.
As for your comment, I believe that you should take care of your personal well being and happiness, but never at the expense of your family and children. But rather, do it for them. I am sure your children can see when you are truly happy or simply just faking it for them. Especially as they get older, they will be more perceptive to you.
When you are not watching, they are. I can’t help but think of a comment made by Chuck in a more recent post that says that very thing about his son. When we as parents think we are keeping our sadness to ourselves, they are likely to be watching and observing. Will they perceive that to be a good thing or a bad thing? Only time will tell.
Perhaps they will cherish your strength for staying in a relationship for them despite not being happy. Or perhaps they will be sad and blame themselves because you stayed for them. Only their map of the world and time will tell.
I obviously hope that our children will appreciate what we tried to do for them. They are our world.